'All of a sudden... I got it'.

I love the insight that Viola Davis gives here.

In 2010, She played the role of "Rose" in Fences on stage. In 2016, six years later, she reprised her role for the film directed by Denzel Washington. 

She confessed, that On stage, there was one scene she felt never worked. It fell flat for her and in each rehearsal it just never came together for her.  Opening night came and went and each night she would get to that scene and just want it to over.  She kept thinking.  "I'm a Julliard Graduate. I'm definitely going to get this at some point."  But, she never felt as if she did. 

Her internal dialogue about that scene back in 2010  was based on her perception of things at the time and she didn't understand why the character of Rose would go through all she went through for the sake of having a child.  She wondered, wouldn't she rather have something else, a career perhaps, or a nice job? 

When it came to doing the scene for the movie several years later however, she had a completely different experience. and the scene worked.  Why?  According to Viola, it was because, in the years between the stage production of the play and the making of the film, she herself had become a mother. 

And then she 'got it' and the scene worked for her. Finally!

This 'aha' moment for her is a reminder that It's good to hire a coach that has been trained and certified. However, it is profound to partner with a coach that  has also experienced the situation you are grappling with in your life. A coach who has been there and knows the way through. 

I won't be the perfect coach for everyone, but I may be the right coach for you. Hire wisely. 

 Note:  The Specific comment begins at  19: 11 seconds into this panel discussion and goes til 23:10 I've cued it up for you but if your media player doesn't support cues then go to the 19 minute mark and listen from there.  -D.